Self Assessment Survey

Healthy and happy relationships help to make you feel better about yourself. A positive relationship can increase your outlook on life, increase your productivity and increase your self-esteem. Love should make you feel good, safe, and happy about the future. Unhealthy relationships can make us feel unhappy, unsafe, and fearful of the future.

Unfortunately many people are in hurtful, unsafe, or violent relationships. It can happen to anyone (i.e. mothers, wives, students, teachers, celebrities, and even you). You do not deserve to be hurt. Domestic violence has no race, ethnic origin, creed or age limit. We all get angry sometimes, but when we do, we all have choices. We can choose to express ourselves in healthy ways.

In healthy relationships, partners help each other feel good about themselves. Insults, unkind words, and humiliation are very hurtful,  they are disrespectful and make you feel badly about yourselves. In loving relationships, partners respect each other's needs. Being jealous or trying to control someone else does not show love. In healthy relationships, partners care about and respect each other's sexual needs and limits. Forcing or hurting someone in a sexual way is physically and emotionally damaging. It's wrong and it's against the law.

In healthy relationships, partners help each other feel loved and safe. Hurting someone physically is never okay, it doesn't solve anything, and it's against the law. Violent behavior and fear make a person feel unsafe. In order for children to know they are loved, they need to feel safe, too. In healthy families, partners share the care and responsibilities of the children including the fun ones as well as the difficult ones. They create a safe and secure home life for the family. Hurting children is never okay, and it's against the law. Children can be removed from a home where they are being abused. In healthy relationships, partners feel proud of how they have learned to express caring for each other. In relationships that are unhealthy, abusive behavior may become dangerous. Even if your partner apologizes and promises that it won't happen again, it is likely to get worse. Nothing you say or do should cause your partner to hurt you.

Take this self-assessment survey for yourself. Get help if you need it.

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